a love story worth revisiting...
About a week ago, I posted a story about my aunt and uncle, Bee and Chuck. It was a Valentine love story, meant to inspire others, that no matter what adversity we have going on in our lives, as long as we have that special someone, our "for better or for worse" days can only BE better, just because we have love on our side. I submitted that story to a local paper for a contest. Only two others were submitted as well. That contest closes tomorrow. My story only garnered 9% of the votes possible to win. Nine percent. Hmmm...I have reread that story. Love. Adversity. Beauty and the Beast situation... and fifty years of togetherness. I have only a few memories personally, (we moved away from California where they lived when I was nine years old) but I do remember the many, many letters that my uncle typed out on his Braille typewriter...(and without too many typos, too!) In those words was a devotion that I wish others could see...and feel. He lauded everything she did. In today's world, where everyone is in it for themselves and divorce is way too common, this was an enduring story. He didn't stay with her or she with him for what they could get out of it, unless you consider companionship, friendship and the daily comfort of knowing you are spending your life with your very best friend, "something." It's okay though, the example they were for all who knew them is enough. I don't need a bouquet of roses from a local paper to know...I have witnessed one of the best things in life. I will put that story here again, in case you missed it the first time around:
"Charles was a handsome man who, when called to service, joined the Army during WW2. He fought in France and it was during the Battle of the Bulge that he came into contact with a grenade. Half of his face was blown away and he was blinded. Life hung in the balance for him, but he survived and when he was strong enough, was sent to an Army hospital in San Francisco to continue his rehabilitation. It was there that he was assigned a nurse named Beatrice. She was about five years older than him and just a tiny woman with a huge heart of gold. Over the days, weeks and months, as she nursed him back to health, something else also happened: they began to fall in love. There was no real plastic surgery back then and Charles was quite a ghastly sight: he had a huge dent in the left side of his face and where an eye should have been, now was a deep scar with a glass eye sewn into place. His other eye, though it moved, couldn’t see. He needed to learn to walk again, to speak again and do all the other things required of being able to care for himself. Beatrice, or “Bee” as he called her, was right by his side and when he was finally able to, they walked down the aisle together as man and wife.
Now, to many, this was a true “Beauty and the Beast” moment. Bee was a beautiful woman, both inside and out. She could have had any man she wanted and indeed, was seeing someone else when Charles first came into her life, yet chose Charles instead. She was gracious towards all and had the patience of a saint. I am sure that Charles sensed this; though he couldn’t see her, he could feel the great intentions deep within her heart. They raised two children and Bee continued her full time work as a registered nurse while Charles was able to learn Braille, then entered college and earned a degree in social services, where he worked for over thirty years. He had a Seeing Eye dog, which made all the difference in his independence. Though blind, he didn’t allow his disability to interfere with raising a family or work. He was loved and respected by many.
When his beloved Bee passed away after over fifty years of marriage, Charles pined for her. After just a few months, he too passed on, to spend eternity with the one true love of his life. He often had said that without “his Bee,” he couldn’t go on. She was the Light in his life, the one who taught him that despite all obstacles, one just does not roll over and expect life to wait on you hand and foot. One needs to go out and meet life and embrace it, with all of it’s struggles and pain as well as its joys.
This story is written in memory of my Uncle Chuck and my aunt Bee…you will always have a special place in my own heart. When the struggles of life get to be too much for me, I remember your love and your grace and how they made each day so much better for you…as it does for me. Thank you for the life lesson I carry deep within."
to my own true love...despite adversities and those who feel they know "what's best for 'us'....I will be here for you--forever!
ReplyDeletewords are, rob, what words are. They can be used to help, to hurt, to heal, to tear down, to make a promise and to break it. I have read your words, the Rev's words, and the words of others. I have seen what words can do on Facebook, on youtube, in letters to the editor, I have seen what politicians can do with words, and what ordinary Joe's such as myself can do. Who gets ALL THE ATTENTION: THE POLITICIANS, THE LIARS, the ones who feel they can sling words around without a care as to who gets hit. Since my wife and daughter's death, I have been carefull to use words to help, to heal. I have told my son, "I can't make a definite promise, but I sure a shell can try to change for the better." Not for him, but for the better. That way, I also have MYSELF to answer to. rob...you need to also watch the words you use only because words can be misconstrued. Not your fault, but we see how the media can spin sh*t outta shinola! Your words reflect on the house others around you have built up. You can make or break people with words. Obviously, in many cases, you have built up and for that, I thank you. but it's a cruel world out here too. Always...and I am telling you like I would as if you were my son (I am 56) always remember, YOU are the one that has to live in the hell you create. Think about it! Repeat it. YOU HAVE TO LIVE IN THE HELL YOU CREATE. an that goes for anyone who is reading this.I don't care if you are friend or foe of the reverend here. Don't make hell and blame it on others or circumstance. This ol drunk has been in AA long enough to know, it's your mess, now fix it or deal with it! But to make it, then walk away..that is just wrong. So to everyone, and not just rob or the Rev but everyone...live the golden rule: if you don't want pain, don't make pain. if you want beauty, make beauty. If I could have my wife and daughter back, I'd make each day so beautiful. But I live now in the shit I created. and there it is. rob...you have been the first bright spot,next to Buddy that I have had since wife passed on, rest her soul. thank YOU for listening to this old codger ramble on. God bless you all...and especially to that little girl lost who also puts in her own two cents...(she could have been my little girl.)
ReplyDeletewow...I already HAVE someone in my life who was like a real dad and now I have a line going...sheesh and wow! This love story is so wonderful, I am glad you reprinted it. I can't see why it wouldn't win that first place prize, but as you said, the ones who remember them with love are the ones who will make a difference in the world. Just like you! I am off to make a difference now...it's called "work!" happy Saturday!
ReplyDeleteRev Baum...glad to meet you! I absolutely SALUTE you for this post! OMG...so beautiful and I will tell you why: it's about RESPECT. so often people today--especially the 25 and younger crowd-- think they can disrespect others. They are so "in your face" about what THEY feel is right. Unfortunately they are WRONG! you know what..to you who feel life owes you--you owe life. You owe it to your parents who raised you. You have absolutely no right to bitch, moan, complain or yell until you have Earned the right to do so. AND ACTUALLY THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN UNTIL THE AGE OF 40 OR SO. BY THEN YOU HAVE RAISED KIDS, WORKED YOUR ASSES OFF AND MAYBE GOTTEN A PARKING TICKET. YOU HAVE WATCHED YOUR KIDS GROW, YOU HAVE DEALT WITH BACKED UP TOILETS, STOMACH FLU AND MAYBE A HANGOVER. IF THOSE KIDS DISRESPECT YOU...THEY NEED TO READJUST THEIR ATTITUDES BECAUSE THE PARENTS CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH. We can learn so much from Chuck and Bee...I thought about their kids. were they ashamed of their dad's appearance, or did they respect him enough to introduce them to friends? I think of kids today who can use a good lesson in what it means to have the basic necessities and go without the rest...maybe that is where society has gone wrong...we have given too much to the younger generation...now they feel its entitled. Rev Baum rocks...keep up the great writing!
ReplyDeleteyour blog made me realize how precious life is...but to have it taken from you at a young age and yet be destined to spend the next 50 years with someone who guides you with so much love...? wow! Even if you don't win some superficial "prize," you have inspired so many with your words and that is what counts, dear Rev. Baum. Thank you for those!
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