walk in my shoes....
I know of so many people, people who go to church and act 'so pious and holy', yet they make sure to let another know when they have sinned. Isn't the very act of judging a sin? Yet they don't hestitate to give out the lashes.
Another form of judgment is second guessing a person's lifestyle. Why is it any of YOUR business what THEY do? Is it breaking a law? Alcoholics/addicts have a tough enough time without someone pointing that finger at them. Unless they are driving drunk or dealing drugs, wouldn't compassion be a better way to go? Why does it matter to you who your neighbor is going out with, or the job they have, you have enough to worry about in your own life. Unless it involves hurting other people, the best advice for today is to send Love and Light into their lives. Be the example that they probably wish they were. Offer a smile instead of a frown. Peace always begins with the one in the mirror; that would be you!
I hear your pain and Robs pain. You wonder if there is some kind of karma going on from past lives that drives these behaviors.
ReplyDeleteRob is an alcoholic but he sounds like a sweet drunk archetype. It is easy to launch all kinds of attacks against alcoholics that are not true simply because alcoholism destroys the fabric of the family. On the other hand alcoholics are victims to of an incurable disease and often times family members forget that. I know he is sick. Rob appears to have become the target of the rage others may feel and is being blamed for their failings. It’s a no win situation until they decide to understand what is going on and forgive him.
So in the end no one wins unless we learn to focus on the good things that do come about and forgive ourselves along the way. I think that is the hardest thing to do. We can be supportive of outers and even forgiving of others but we don’t treat ourselves that way. We hold ourselves to a higher standard and often we can’t meet the requirements we set for ourselves.
Oh yes, I too have encountered the "pious ones." They who tell me what to do. What is it about that splinter in the eye of another when we ignore the log in our own? Be true to self...and not selfishness! When all you wish is to cultivate Love, Love will be all that you cultivate. Simple as that!
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ReplyDeleteThanks, I think. I go to work, provide for the Rev. and I, come home tired, eat and go to bed. Occasionally fondall the woman, but you dont need to know that!!
Point being, we are family trying to survive and actuallly doing it, with only a small repurcushion or two....an ex-wife feeding a couple of iggnorant kids her side of a story that exists in only her head. And they beleive her. Which really hurts, and she knows it.
How do you get ignorant, jealouse kids back on your (My) side? How do you put an ignorant "Ex" to sleep?
Help!
Rev. Kory, I truly trust you first! Thanks.
Please?
rob...I feel your pain, truly I do. I wish I could say its all so easy but it isn't. Your kids are adults and have their own minds so why they would believe their mom and not what they have had and seen with you is beyond me. She truly has them brainwashed. So, what to do? You wait it out. yes it hurts and takes a long time but wait. Sooner or later the Prodigal Kids always come back. Sometimes it can be too late but they come back and we must welcome them with open arms! In the meantime, take care of your wife, LOVE HER! She is an inspiration to so many and to you also, I can tell. You are doing the best that you can in the place that you are in. Be kind to yourself...enjoy the life that you have and feel no guilt-NONE! You have done what you should have done. Don't let the kids derail you into thinking you are a perpetrator--because you are not...you are a dad who choose love over all. It was they who refused YOU!
ReplyDeleterob...life ain't fair. get used to that. Kids ....we piss and moan for them when they are young yet they turn their backs on us adults as if we did them wrong. It ain't right. You can scream it to the hills, but what will that solve? Nothing! So, let the arrogant little bastards have their fun, sooner or later they will realize they were wrong. Will it be too late? Who knows but it is on their conscience that they shitcanned ya. You did the best you could, right? You know you are right, right? Then, let it go. Take care of your woman...like Rev Kory said. And for anyone to use the excuse,"well, its because you drink that I can't stand ya," is a bold faced liar. They ain't so perfect, no one is. Maybe we all should just get along instead of cut each other down all the time. Look in the mirror....be honest with yourself first.
ReplyDelete(for rob:) taken from Luke 14...For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Then Jesus said to his host, “When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or sisters, your relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed. Although they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.” (Enough said.)
ReplyDeleteTruly, thank you all.
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