sandpaper people
Life is stressful enough, I think. We go about our own business and try to make it through each day...and even try to make another's day a bit better also. Then along comes someone whose only "joy" in their life is to do everything they can to make another miserable. They can't seem to extract any "joy" unless they are gossiping, backstabbing, whining and generally taking away our energy with their negativity.
Do you know of anyone like this?
Could this be YOU?
For today, instead of seeing the glass as half empty, see it as half full. If someone cuts you off in traffic, let it go. If you see someone behind you at the store with less than what you have, allow them to go ahead of you. Comment on a well behaved child, thank a soldier for their service to our country. Do what you can to turn a negative into a positive. And then, when the "sandpaper people," those who seem to get their jollies making others miserable try to work their magic on you, you can simply allow it to roll off of you like water on a duck's back. For today, be too happy to allow negative stress to take over your life.
Live for today!
yup--cut 'em loose. If its a "friend," you're better off...without them. Life is too short to be stressed out! Fer Sure!
ReplyDeleteWhat if it's a parent?? Had a hurtful conversation about a "life choice" today with my father. How do you deal with the judgement?
ReplyDeleteRev Baum here. Ah...our blood relatives...they can cause us so much pain and sorrow. Whether it be a parent, an adult child, an in-law, there is bound to be some hurt. But what we need to realize is that we all are adults, we all have our opinions which need to be respected. Unless there is hurtful verbal or physical abuse, it is best if we can "agree to disagree." In my life, I grew up with an abusive mom while dad was too weak to step in and "make it better." I told my folks that it just hurt too much for me to be in that quagmire of pain. And I stepped away. Not so much away that I couldn't be found in the event of emergencies, but away enough to save myself. My dad understood, in his own way. We talked a LOT after mom passed away. Yes, we both felt guilt, but I forgave him for his weakness. What we need to keep in mind is that our parents gave us LIFE! In the midst of pain it is so hard to remember that. If, after speaking with your father you find that things haven't resolved themselves, either write or tell your father, Char, that for now, you are going to step back. Tell him that you love him but not his judgment of you. Reassure him that you need to move FORWARD and hopefully in time, he may see what this separation is like. Life is so short, and if it is filled with conflicts, it just makes our time with loved ones even shorter. Again, do NOT cut him out of your life with hate-filled words, but release him with love. Because he is still your dad.
DeleteRev...I am crying so hard here...OMG where were YOU when my mom was destroying herself with drugs??? I needed my mommy so much...I question myself every single day that I turned down her last request to see me at Christmas! Now I can only look back and wish that time back. You are so right about just taking a step back. I turned my WHOLE back on her...and I carry that regret with me all the time. @Char C. Listen to Rev Baum, she is so smart and knows of what she says!!!
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