"You live in the Hell you create!"
The news is in and Jerry Sandusky, who molested a number of boys while he was at Penn State, has been found guilty on 43 counts and was lead away from the courtroom in handcuffs where he will spend basically the rest of his life in a 6 X 8 foot concrete hell. It is a hell of his own making.
And the courtroom cheered.
I have always wondered what runs through the mind of someone who sexually abuses another. Pedophiles take away the innocent lives of the ones who have trusted them the most and use their power of being a mentor, teacher, priest, or family friend to wield their control. Even sadly enough there have been reports of uncles or stepfathers who do this same thing. The general public does not tolerate this sort of thing. It is horrific for all concerned and may take years, if ever to recover from.
It seems that no matter how much we talk to our young kids about not accepting rides or candy from strangers, it is even more weird to even broach the subject of what to do if "papa David" lays a hand on you. How does one even begin that conversation? Must we all go through life already mistrusting everyone we come into contact with? As I said, it leaves a permananet scar on society when trust between adults and children has been crushed.
You can prepare your kids for so much, but in the end, there will always be pain. There must also be forgiveness for the pain, however. I know, you the reader feel justice is better served if we just chop off the offender's appendage....but in our current legal system, this is just not feasible. The best way is to be open and honest, talk to your kids and talk some more. Be aware of what happens with them. Don't just assume that because they are with Father Tim or papa Todd or grampa Bill or that teacher from school or the Boy Scout leader that all is just peachy. Maybe it isn't. Keep your instincts always on guard and don't be naive if you find out that "something happened!" Sometimes something does happen and now you need to make it right, even if it means dealing with someone you thought you could trust.
To even think that we can prevent evil things from happening is naive at best. The best we can do is to work through the events that happen that do damage to us and others. We need to help each other to understand that even though there is so much that is bad in the world and society, there is still good there as well. The best we can do is to raise our children to recognize what to avoid and to help them move beyond the hurts and the damage that happens in spite of every precaution we think we can provide. Even though we get hurt, life goes on and can still be good. This is why our children depend on us to look after them. Don't let them down, even when they try to say, "but mom....he hurt me...I don't like the way he looks at me...I don't want to be around him!"
I am hoping that the news of this guilty verdict will propel those who are still in the shadow of the pervert who has stolen their lives to come forward and tell their story. To NOT feel afraid, and to realize it was NOT their fault, they have done nothing wrong. And to the rest, may peace find your soul and rest there....may God bless you and heal your pain.
And the courtroom cheered.
I have always wondered what runs through the mind of someone who sexually abuses another. Pedophiles take away the innocent lives of the ones who have trusted them the most and use their power of being a mentor, teacher, priest, or family friend to wield their control. Even sadly enough there have been reports of uncles or stepfathers who do this same thing. The general public does not tolerate this sort of thing. It is horrific for all concerned and may take years, if ever to recover from.
It seems that no matter how much we talk to our young kids about not accepting rides or candy from strangers, it is even more weird to even broach the subject of what to do if "papa David" lays a hand on you. How does one even begin that conversation? Must we all go through life already mistrusting everyone we come into contact with? As I said, it leaves a permananet scar on society when trust between adults and children has been crushed.
You can prepare your kids for so much, but in the end, there will always be pain. There must also be forgiveness for the pain, however. I know, you the reader feel justice is better served if we just chop off the offender's appendage....but in our current legal system, this is just not feasible. The best way is to be open and honest, talk to your kids and talk some more. Be aware of what happens with them. Don't just assume that because they are with Father Tim or papa Todd or grampa Bill or that teacher from school or the Boy Scout leader that all is just peachy. Maybe it isn't. Keep your instincts always on guard and don't be naive if you find out that "something happened!" Sometimes something does happen and now you need to make it right, even if it means dealing with someone you thought you could trust.
To even think that we can prevent evil things from happening is naive at best. The best we can do is to work through the events that happen that do damage to us and others. We need to help each other to understand that even though there is so much that is bad in the world and society, there is still good there as well. The best we can do is to raise our children to recognize what to avoid and to help them move beyond the hurts and the damage that happens in spite of every precaution we think we can provide. Even though we get hurt, life goes on and can still be good. This is why our children depend on us to look after them. Don't let them down, even when they try to say, "but mom....he hurt me...I don't like the way he looks at me...I don't want to be around him!"
I am hoping that the news of this guilty verdict will propel those who are still in the shadow of the pervert who has stolen their lives to come forward and tell their story. To NOT feel afraid, and to realize it was NOT their fault, they have done nothing wrong. And to the rest, may peace find your soul and rest there....may God bless you and heal your pain.
unfortunately that hell of his also has the souls of the kids he molested. I hope he dies there....and in his boredom feels the pain we all have felt since this news came out!
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