a tearjerker you need to see......
My husband and I saw a film yesterday titled "Trouble with the Curve." The story is about an aging baseball scout whose estranged daughter realizes that dad's health is failing and she needs to reconnect with him---before it's "too late." This film could have been all swarmy, warm and fuzzy cliche, but it wasn't. Clint Eastwood wrote and starred in it. When Clint is in charge, you pay attention. Boy am I glad I did. This movie I watched AFTER my last blog posting. It's like I saw the future in it. His point in this film is that you do not disrespect your elders--ever! Pride takes over, but even then it is eroded by the fact that as adults, kids see things differently than when they actually happened years before. It takes maturity to understand why things happened as they did. And just as I asked in my last post: "did anyone get hurt?" In this case, Clint was saving his daughter from BEING hurt by a brutal person when she was young. She didn't realize that her perception of "being abandoned" as a child by him was because of that very reason until her dad told her. Then came forgiveness. Then came acceptance.
Friends, our children, as they grow, think very differently than they do as adults. They see things literally. Here. Now. And damn the one who hurt them, at least in their eyes. yet things may have been different. Details were kept from them. I only can hope that if this is happening to you--as an adult or an adult child of a parent you think has wronged you--go to that person. Find out the whys and wherefores before you write them out of your life. There is always TWO sides to every story. Your family will always be there. No matter what. That blood tie will always bind you together for eternity. Like it or not. The lesson here is forgiving. Accepting. Moving forward. Respect and love go a long way in this life. What are you waiting for?
oh...if you go see this movie, bring tissues with you. Clint will have you crying.
how many kids tell their parents to go burn in hell? I am not talking about blatant child abuse, but for perceived misconceptions that just can't be talked through. Probably more than we can know. I have a friend who is n the same boat, his wife speaks so ill of his mom and it makes me wonder why he doesn't just tell her that is HIS mom...who has done nothing more than raise him as best she could. Oh if only, right??
ReplyDeletegreat movie! great actor! I encourage all to see it! and am glad that I did. love you, dad!
ReplyDeleteCall it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.
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I do have to say that after all I have been through, or should I say, all I put my family through, I am here. Greatly appreciative. I can also say that it has been three weeks since my last drink. Of anything. I feel stronger. Better. More energized. And more reflective of the pain I have caused. I am glad my son stuck it out with me. I am glad for you Rev Baum for being here for me non-judgmentally and I am glad fro rob who tries each day. Maybe someday he will be here with me. Mostly--thank God for family. I am glad that I got to go see this film.
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